One of the best toys for a beginner interested in butt play is anal beads.
If you are not familiar, here is a definition from the least likely place on Earth — Wikipedia:
Anal beads are a sex toy consisting of multiple spheres or balls attached together in series which are continuously inserted through the anus into the rectum and then removed with varying speeds depending on the effect desired (most typically at orgasm to enhance climax). Those who use anal beads enjoy the pleasurable feeling they receive as the ball passes through the narrow sphincter of the anus.
There is nothing I can change in that definition. Anal beads are the least scary of the butt play toys to play with, and one that intensifies your orgasm, adding a new level to your sex fun.
The first anal beads that I had a chance to play with were small beads (or balls) on a white string like a necklace. Why the manufacturers used WHITE strings on a toy designed for butt play was always a question I could never find the answer to. A dark string would have been a much better choice.
The reason why anal beads (or anal balls), became such a popular toy to play with is because they make “regular” sex fun. Yes, it sounds cheesy but it is true. The small beads (and even the medium, for that matter), are so small and non-threatening, that couples with no experience with sex toys of any kind are typically willing to experiment with butt play.
For this example, I am using the anal beads that are connected by a string, and have a ring on the end to pull them out. There are other types of anal beads that I will mention later. And this assumes you have decided to play with anal beads with your partner. However, you can use the beads for solo play and masturbation just as well.
Using a good quality lube (one that you didn’t buy at a pharmarcy!), and add lube to each of the balls individualy. BE GENEROUS — lube them well. Take the first bead, and press it against your anus. Relax and push the anal bead in with your finger. (Quick Lesson: The anus has two controlling muscles; an outer sphincter and an inner sphincter. Insert the anal beads past the second muscle, which is usually about the second joint of your finger).
Slide your finger out, and repeat on the next bead. Have your partner play with you while this is happening. Remember, the goal is to make sex fun — you shouldn’t experience any pain when inserting the beads. The large anal beads might require a little more time and relaxation, but there should not be any pain when using your anal beads.
Once you have inserted all of the beads (or “anal balls” as one of my staff calls them!), relax and begin to play with your partner, and move on to intercourse or oral sex, or whatever activities you have choose. One of you needs to be warned that your orgasm is coming so they can grab the ring and get ready.
Guys have the “point of no return” and we know once we reach that point on the orgasm-mountain, we are going to come soon no-matter-what; women tell me the same thing. But one of the most difficult things I have found in all my years is sex partners who could not or would not identify that point and tell me “I’m aboutto cum”.
So hopefully, your partner has warned you of their soon-to-happen — or in progress orgasm! With a firm grip on the ring, gently but firmly pull so that one of the anal balls “pops-out”. Wait ONE second, and then pull the next one out, and continue until they are all out.
WHY does this feel so good?
The anus, richly endowed with nerve endings and interconnected with the main pelvic muscles, is the closest erogenous neighbor of the genitals and contracts rhythmically during orgasm.
Simply put, when your body begins to orgasm, it squeezes your butt closed. Each bead being pulled out is forcing your butt open, and then allowing it to slam shut, thereby increasing the intensity of the orgasm, and in some cases, increasing its duration.
Chances are, you will be exhaused when you play with anal beads. But you will be intensely happy as there will be no pain and beads will certainly make sex fun!
Also, for more advanced butt play individuals, we do sell substantially larger anal beads, where each ball is at least 1.5″ wide.
The “Other” anal beads:
The biggest complaint about the anal beads on a string is that you must insert your finger in your butt in order to get the beads in your butt. Makes sense right? So manufacturers came up with a new type of anal beads all connected on a firm but flexible rod, allowing you to lube the entire rod and insert into your butt without getting your fingers messy. Remember we are trying to make sex fun and some people don’t want to wash their hands before getting busy!
We sell about as many of the “firm” beads as we do the “string” beads. The biggest difference I tell customers is that the firm beads go straight in and maintain themselves in a hard, straight line inside your butt, and only allow your butt to close 75%. The string anal beads on the other hand, do not go deep, do not stay in a straight line, and allow your anus to close 99% because only a string is sticking out.
Preferences and choices! That is what really makes sex fun!
Anal Beads or anal balls are the toy you should consider trying for your experience at butt play. There are non-threatening, insert easy, remove easy, offer no pain, and will double or triple the intensity of your ejaculatory orgasm. We spend a lot of time with guys in the stores trying to preach the virtues of butt play experimentation because of the intensity that it provides. Obviously for guys, we push the LoveWorks prostate toys because it is a two-pronged orgasm intensifier, but for first timers, anal beads are the way to go. Give it a try, in private, alone or with your partner. It is an experience you won’t forget.