A 2 minute guide to female orgasms that every woman should read.
There are four kinds of people classified, based on how they react to this headline.
A) why do we need an online guide for something that comes naturally?
B) I can always learn more!
C) Finally, someone has answers to questions I’ve felt embarrassed before to ask.
D) “Enticing topic to lure readers”
No matter where you fall, you might be surprised (in a pleasant way) to discover that there’s more things you can learn regarding female orgasms and sexual pleasures than you think you already know. That right, including you, no. 4.
These discoveries were found with Irene Fehr, a self-proclaimed sex / intimacy coach who is Denver-based.
So what are we missing?
Many adult women discovered masturbation entirely by accident, finding themselves unintentionally rubbing on something and correlating that to a “good feeling” Fehr says. She explained that they discovered how good it felt and they continued to do it. Those who did not discover it in early childhood were likely not to masturbate till their 30s.
Roughly 72% of the women between 25 and 29 revealed having masturbated within the last 90 days, according to the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior. The survey numbers decreased in age groups outside of those shown.
Why is everyone not doing more? We happen to be alive in a time where Dolly Parton discusses openly about sex toys on shows, so it has nothing to do with cultural moralism. A lot of media outlet tell advice women who don’t choose to masturbate at all or those experiencing difficulty climaxing –that all they need do is relax, set the scene right, rub where it feels the best. This results in another form of shame for “not getting it right.” Female Orgasms are not supposed to be about shame!
But according to Fehr, this is because every female is built differently. Regarding sexual pleasure, every female is aroused in a different way; some female’s clitoral nerves are closer to the top (of the skin level), so a slight rub can please them, while for other females, nerves are even deeper and or need a more firm rub. These females experience non satisfying feelings like — it feels good to touch your body and yourself, but it’s similar to touching anywhere generically on your arms and legs. It really doesn’t accomplish anything.
For others, sex toys like a vibrator do not generate the feelings necessary — so say women who do not purchase the right vibrator. They think they need an external strong stimulant from someone close or from sexually stimulating visuals like porn, to the increase the craving and the desire to climax. This is like the contrast between an extrovert and an introvert.
She explained that the solution is to begin building your sexual excitement from the inside, that way you can feel the energy anytime and you are not dependent on your partner.
Learn to experience yourself and be happy.
It does not matter whether you are an introvert or a sexual extrovert, this anatomy course is for you. The scope of this course has to do with learning about your sex organs and “female parts” and you will encounter fewer textbook diagrams (no crime sounding like we are in a classroom).
For regular self-strokers, this entails keeping away your precious sex toys and using your natural tools. You might want to add a mirror as well. Take your time, prepare your scene. This might feel strange to you, but the good tunes and scented candle will get you rolling.
You have to take your mind off reaching orgasm and focus on feeling good. Experiment while looking closely at your clitoris and labia, find out what makes you feel good and relish the pleasure. Notice how the sensation is being altered as you explore. Removing the goal of orgasm and replacing it with a pleasurable experience is helpful. This will help you when having partnered experience.
There are different kinds of female orgasms to have. Experience them all.
There is no one path for female orgasms. Not every woman has orgasm through clitoral or vaginal stimulation, some reach climax through slow massage-like deep thrusting and cervical orgasms. Others can have full- body or nipple orgasms without genital stimulation. The very lucky ones can climax by touching of knees and through breathing methods etc. it depends on the individual.
If you choose to improve the ability to relish any of the above orgasm techniques, below are helpful resources.
A female-friendly sex toy shop
You may be surprised to discover the quality and quantity of knowledge those sex-toy shop employees have pertaining what gives pleasure. You’d be shocked to find out what exists. Different lube options? Be serious! These are not the same lubes you find in the big stores for a reason. You might want to visit one near you on your way back from work tomorrow.
Orgasm Meditation
There are group classes getting very popular and chances are you heard discussion on or saw it somewhere. It involves the practice of having a stranger stroke you for less than 20 minutes without trying to orgasm, but to make you feel good and to release oxytocin. Personally, I’m not sure about having strangers touch me like that, but the good news is that there are classes available online now.
Sexual coaching
If you are having difficulty orgasming or finding yourself with a low sex drive, there are coaches out there who could walk you through it, to help you find out the root cause and solution. The sessions may be face to face or maybe through various messengers.
Sex-ological Body work
Yes, as the name implies, it’s a form of massage where the patient is being touched in a sexual manner with no reciprocation required. Although other regions are finding reasons to explain that this isn’t prostitution, only California has acknowledged this as a profession for now.
Maybe, to your dismay, there is no pornography or erotica included as a technique that helps you. Fehr says that humans are complicated and quite messy and are different from those who portray it on-screen. She warns against the use of porn in place of human touch. But if you want to use it just for now, it can serve as a nice source of arousal.
If you have taken the time to read this post — you should realize that female orgasm is outstanding — and that is your pursuit. It should become your pursuit at every sexual opportunity.
“Women enjoying themselves sexually is a taboo,” Fehr explained, stating that society continues to believe women who aim to be “lascivious and desirous” will lead themselves only to problems. Well, Ladies, brace yourselves for Ogasma-geddon!
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